This is my second pregnancy and I am finding that around the third trimester I am getting the exact same commentary from people. By people, I mean anyone including friends, family, colleagues, even strangers! I figure most women have dealt with this so I started documenting every awkward conversation I had to endure.
1. ‘Whoa are you sure that it isn’t twins’
Yes, yes I am sure but thank you for making me feel huge. This really goes with any size comment. I have also recently gotten ‘wait so the baby is only 2 pounds right now” as if to ask why I have packed on the additional 20 pounds. Hate to break it to you but there is more than a baby in there – I am also a full functioning spa Jacuzzi
2. ‘I am just going to rub your belly’
Wait – what!?! The checkout lady at the Subway last night was obsessed with rubbing my belly. I am usually pretty polite and just let them have a quick pat and move away. When else in your life are you going to have a stranger ask if they can touch your body!?! When I am not pregnant I have never had a stranger say ‘oh let me feel your arm’ so why people feel they can cross that boundary with a pregnant woman is beyond me!
3. ‘Are you scared of delivery? I think it is going to hurt’
No, not scared at all; it’s like super calm and relaxing right? OF COURSE labor makes me nervous which is why I am trying not to think too much about it, thanks for bringing it up!
4. ‘Breastfeeding is hard, but it’s what is best’
a. Well, a fed baby is actually what is best but thanks for the advice. This is one of my least favorites because it normally does not come with any advice, it’s just a statement. I would love it if they said ‘breastfeeding is hard and here is something that worked for me if you decide to go that route’. Breastfeeding is such a personal choice; sometimes it doesn’t work out but the pressure to make it work is overwhelming.
5. ‘Get your sleep now……’
What do you mean!?!? I am going to love waking up every 3 hours. Actually I love it so much that when my child does sleep through the night I am going to set an alarm 3 times a night just because I enjoy it so much. Yes, understand the baby will wake up frequently but there is nothing that you can do so no need to point it out. I am sleeping a blissful 8 hours a night right now (my current child is 2) so I am just focusing on that….
I love being pregnancy for other reasons. I can replace my calories after I work out (I usually do this with ice cream… but I am pretty sure that counts) people are generally nicer (holding doors, offering their seat ect) and I personally LOVE feeling that little nugget kick so the positives definitely outweigh any awkward conversations you will inevitably have. What comments that you gotten recently that drive you bananas?